Comments: I wish everyone was loved tonight
And somehow stop this endless fight
Just a chance that maybe we'll find better days

I think you've unwittingly found yourself in the role of caregiver to the world. It's a difficult situation because it seems like you're the only clearheaded person on the planet. I mean, what do you do? Force-feed him or drag him to a therapist? Call the Department of Aging? Come to think of it, the last one's not a bad idea. It's all such a cry for help, but if his grandest goal is to be with his wife again, even divine intervention isn't going to stop it. But how do you walk away from it when you feel like there's something left to be done?

Posted by dawn at July 14, 2007 11:10 AM

I'm so sorry. It's difficult (really impossible) to figure out what to say without knowing the people involved personally. Then again this stuff was never my strong suit. *sigh*

In my experience - no one ever listens to me. Ever. I wish there was advice that I could give that would help. Maybe someone with greater success in dealing with people will have something for you. In the meantime {{{HUGS}}} it's very hard to watch as people do this to themselves.

Posted by Teresa at July 14, 2007 11:12 AM

In my world - this man is very depressed, living in the house where his wife died, not thinking clearly. That does not make standing by while he gives up something I can really accept.

As Teresa says, it's hard to know. But I perhaps you should look into the local Department of Aging (or whatever they call it where he lives). If he truly is not competent or in need of mental health care, then they will ensure he gets the help he needs.

*Hugs to you, my dear*

Posted by FbL at July 14, 2007 10:57 PM

Dang....it's human nature to want to help someone in that state. I'd also want to ...but then family members only serve to make it much more difficult.

Sorry one has to go through this...

Posted by Slick at July 15, 2007 08:26 AM

Prayer. Lots of prayer. It's the only thing you can do and it's the only thing that could help.

Posted by Ogre at July 16, 2007 10:12 AM