Comments: A Clean House Is Not Indicative of a Sound Mind

If my dad ever asked me to drive an hour to help him with something, he'd ask for dinner and then have me make the bed when I got there.

On a lighter note, we often joke about the choices of my parent's retirement home. As the oldest, I get the task and have played that card many times.

And my dad makes me promise that I will not bury him near a road, a high traffic place where "punks" (his words) will trample all over his grave. He is perfectly fine with good kids playing and kicking the ball around in his resting place, but no punks. I think I'll just have "No Punks Allowed" put on his tombstone....it sums him up pretty well.

Now back to searching online for his Christmas gift...

Posted by Sissy at December 16, 2007 11:09 PM

Is he starting to stoop?

Have you done extensive research on Parkinsons? Most people don't realize how bad of a disease it is. Mr Weenie's grandmother had it and the last couple years of her life were horrible, all attributed to the Parkinsons.

It cause's a humped or stooped back in later stages and dementia is part of it also.

Posted by Quality Weenie at December 17, 2007 08:27 AM

So I had this long comment ready and the frickin' spam thing ate it.

Sissy- Oh you shoulda seen the place we picked out for him! Independent living with 5 restaurants and a damn LIMO. He didn't even have to ride the short bus. Holy crap. It was a cruise ship that never left port. But... oh we won't go there. I might stroke out...

I like the No Punks Allowed. Heh!

QW- I have become somewhat of an expert on Parkinson's. He's had it for what we think is 10 years, but officially diagnosed for 6. I've done hours and hours and hours and hours of endless research. I do think we are pushing into dementia. There are signs I'm watching for.

Yes, he stoops, BUT, remember, he uses a walker, so he would stoop anyway. That said, I think the body rigidity is causing the scoliosis and lower back problems. The leg rigidity is hidden with the shuffle he has always done with his walker.

People without family members with Parkinson's do not get it. They don't. It is a horrible disease that takes the physical person you knew away, and if dementia does not set in, leaves their sharp mind in a broken body. People say, 'Oh! They have drugs!' NO. The drugs gork him out. He is of the % that has tremors, so... he can tremor and not eat OR he can be gorked out and barely functional... but no tremor. They just added a 2nd medication... I know the docs see it getting worse. I see it getting worse.

It absolutely breaks my heart. And I am sick and worried he may choke and die alone. I am tormented by that thought. But he has refused our help... and he is still mentally competent. He makes his own choices.

it is what it is... as horrible as it is.

Posted by Bou at December 17, 2007 05:23 PM

Yep, Parkinson's is not a nice way to go.

Mr Weenie's grandmother got so bad that they had to hire someone to feed her. They had her in a assisted living facility but towards the end she got so bad they moved her down to SC (Mr Weenie's mother lives there) to a real nice facility. She lived 6 months after she moved.

It was horrible to see what it did to her, to see her so helpless. Gah, it makes me cry just thinking about it.

Posted by Quality Weenie at December 17, 2007 05:40 PM

*sigh* I'm sorry - wish there was something someone could do. I know there isn't and it's something all of you have to "get through". *bigger sigh*

Posted by Teresa at December 17, 2007 10:52 PM