Comments: Still Caught Somewhere Between a Boy and a Man

All I can say is just grin and bear it. If you really don't give a shit and you dislike your brother and his bride to be that much then fuck'em. Don't go to the wedding.

I am the oldest out of 9 children. I love all my siblings very much. I tried for many years to help them out and gently steer them in the right direction when I saw them headed for the wall at 100 mph. It has never helped in on single instance. So I told them all point blank, to live their life the way they wanted to.

I also told them that when I saw a major SNAFU in the making that I would tell them exactly how I felt about it. They could take what I say to heart or tell me to go fuck myself. It doesn't matter to me anymore. I'll always love them but I can't live their life for them and I am no longer going to be there for them when the shit hits the fan like I told them it would.

Just do what makes you happy but be sure of what that is. When you look in the mirror do you like who you see? That is all that really matters.

If I was in your shoes and my brother was going to marry a nitwit and he was also a nitwit, I would not have anything to do with it and I would tell him exactly why. I would not go to the wedding either. Attending such a farce implies your approval of it to all that know you.

One of my brothers and one of my sisters made the same mistake years ago. Neither was mature enough for marriage and both were marrying shitheads that would screw them over big time. I told them both so and did not attend either wedding.

My premonitions came true as I knew they would. My brother finally grew up and came around and made a decent life for himself once he got out of that mess. My sisters is almost 50 and is still a childish brat that won't talk to me. She thinks I should have been there to help her out of the mess she made. I warned her ahead of time. She could have avoided the wall but chose not to heed anything I said and she paid dearly for it.

I'll always love her but I have accepted that she will never grow up and she will probably never forgive me for what she perceives as my fault. Until she grows up, if that ever happens, she can kiss my ass.

I hope my rambling helped. If not, at least I entertained you for a few minutes.

Have a good weekend.

;-)

Joe

Posted by Assrot at August 1, 2008 04:44 PM

I ran into an old friend who had married a wretch of a woman right around when we stopped talking. We all warned him about it. She was abusive and entitled and just a trainwreck of a human being. 10 years later, he says he knew it was wrong, he knew we were right, and why he put himself through that b.s. (now that he's married to an awesome gal) is beyond him. And he's a really smart dude, too.

That said, i just saw wedding photos from another wedding in which the bridesmaid didn't fess up to her hatred of the groom till the DAY OF THE WEDDING. She snarled in every g.d. photo. It's horrible. Everyone looks like they were crying before the wedding and her sour puss will live on forever. But it's the sourpuss who didn't say her peace BEFORE the blessed event whom everyone's going to remember. Even if the groom is a dick. :)

I say schedule your own vacation so it conflicts with it, and air your grievances sooner rather than later. And then go on and live a happy life and know that at least one of you makes good choices and intends to not fuck up one's life at the first available opportunity.

Posted by dawn at August 1, 2008 05:14 PM

Darling,

I too am learning the serenity prayer as a new mantra...

I am learning, and it has taken 38 years. And will take 100 more.

You had a heart attack, and you want pizza?

You filed bankruptcy, and are gonna buy what?

the list goes on and on...

maybe we can figure out how to sit back and watch train wrecks happen?

Posted by awtm at August 7, 2008 10:26 AM

Watched a cousin do the same thing, only he was trying to be like his older brother. No matter what was said, or how it was said, there was no turning him from his path.

I tried. Perhaps not in the best way, but I tried. And it didn't serve to do anything but make him more determined to marry the little whore anyway.

I was right. And while he's kinda forgiven me, I don't hear much from him anymore.

That's about all I got to say about that...

Posted by That 1 Guy at August 8, 2008 07:11 PM