Comments: Maybe this is a long time coming

I'm sorry you are going through that.

It seems that we are getting closer and closer to where you are....and Little Man will be 18 in February, yet acts like a 12 yr old sometimes.

Hubby and I were talking about Little Man's behavior, and she said something that struck me--maybe it might you, I don't know...(and she said this to Hubby) as her boys are older than ours...

She said, "You're treating him like a child, the gounding etc.. If he wants to act like a man, and bow up on you, let him. Then pop him one, man to 'man.' It seems that all young boys must go through this before they realize they are not yet a man."

Unfortunately, in your case, Boopie has a bio father. That's tough.

I wish you well, and Ktreva, too.

Posted by Rave at November 10, 2008 08:59 PM

We were talking to a friend....just for clarification...

Posted by Rave at November 10, 2008 09:00 PM

You were also fighting against what his father is doing to him.

He will learn, eventually, but he will learn and it's going to be the very hard way.

Sometimes things like this has to be done in order for him to see the light.

Posted by Quality Weenie at November 11, 2008 08:01 AM

You're not failing him. The two of you are doing plenty to help him see the error of his ways. He's really failing himself. He's old enough to see that his actions have consequences, and if he chooses to be in denial about that, it's his problem.

The unfortunate part is that you love him and it hurts to see him fail.

Posted by caltechgirl at November 11, 2008 01:07 PM

Oh shit. Hang in there... And remember - protecting Clone and Ktreva are a priority. I feel for all of you guys... :(

Posted by Richmond at November 11, 2008 03:23 PM

No from what I've seen you & ktreva are excellent parents.It just that the boy is living in 2 differents homes with different values. He is going through the teen years and someday he'll wake up and realize that he needs to change his ways. Our marine wasn't quite as much of a hassle, but we kind of went down that road with him. He actually started changing his senior year in high school & joining the marines really made him look at his future. So hang in there, it will get better.

Posted by red at November 12, 2008 06:53 AM

Everyone else has already said it. I'm so sorry you all have to go through this. :-( I wish there was some magical way to make it all go right. *sigh*

Posted by Teresa at November 12, 2008 11:28 PM

Hang in there my brother. I've been there, Once was myself with my parents and the second time was my youngest and now with the girlfriends son. I woke up and so did my youngest. Waiting for the boy now.

Posted by Jim E. at November 13, 2008 10:02 PM