Comments: Life's Nasty Turns

It really does suck, doesn't it? I went to a wake Friday night for a forty-seven year old father of four young children. He was fit and active, but died of a massive heart attack. I went to grade school and high school with his older sister, so I remember him best as the "pesky younger brother", riding his bike up and down the street, bugging us as we tried to play, etc. You know how Irish Catholic wakes are - a mix of laughter and tears and prayers, walls of photos to examine, children darting thru the lines, etc. The worst part was going thru the family line, ending up with his poor wife, who is completely lost without him, and his poor mother, who is devastated. The best part is our faith, and our strong community, who have pulled together in a fabulous way for this family.

Posted by Mary at February 17, 2009 11:17 PM

The mom was Tater's preschool teacher. Give her my love please. I don't have a phone number or email for her. She is a wonderful woman.

Posted by vw bug at February 18, 2009 05:31 AM

*sigh* I'm very sorry. Yes, the best thing the boys can do is to be there and not let the girls withdraw from their friends if it can be helped.

Posted by Teresa at February 18, 2009 10:58 AM

Ugh. Sucks that your kids have to deal with the death of their peers' parents at their age. On the other hand, maybe some reality is okay at a young age so they'll know how to deal with it as they get older. And I agree, they should know that as peers, they should be taught to offer love and support by being there. And they don't really need to see a viewing of someone not related to them. I had problems at the viewing for my dad, I spent most of the time outside the room by the pictures, because I wanted my last memory of him to be as he was alive, not lying in a wooden box.

And I'm happy that I gave up smoking eleven years ago. To this day, I still have dreams where I sneak a smoke and wake up with my mouth tasting like an ashtray. Any other ex-smokers have this problem?

Posted by diamond dave at February 18, 2009 10:58 AM

Oh that's just so sad... :(

Posted by Richmond at February 18, 2009 12:14 PM

Those poor girls -- my heart just aches for them.

Posted by Bob at February 18, 2009 11:11 PM