Comments: Graveyards.....

Pretty sure I've said this before, but you are truly fortunate to have your family history.

Posted by Kath on September 11, 2009 05:36 AM

I've had to read this over a couple times. The horror of knowing a child has died. The ghastliness of the thoughts of what was next. Something in his inner psych saying, "NO" and jumping in there to bail out that water.

I keep coming back to it.

Posted by Bou on September 11, 2009 03:42 PM

I work in out of the way places. The sticks as it were. On one job I went into the tract next to a large but rather old graveyard, out in middle of nowhere. At least it was now.
Finishing early on my last day I had time to spare, so took a stroll through the graveyard.
The sigh was easy to read. The graveyard had once been located near a thriving little community. Burials had started in the 1860's with many more to follow up till the 1930's when people started fleeing the Depression, the the young men went off to war, and the young women and other folks left their farms for wartime jobs in the cities.
After that the graves were few. Scattered from the 60's up to the 90's when the old folk were brought back to be buried in home ground.
Out of curiousity I went to the oldest part and began recording dates of birth and death from the barely legible headstones. After several dozen a pattern began to emerge and after I'd done the math I was stunned that over 30 percent of the graves were children under 10 years of age. All to often they were infants who had died at birth or lived only days and sadder still, there was sometime the grave of the mother beside them, buried days later.
A statistician would have said that it wasn't a representative sample and it was not but at the same time it was...
Representative enough to illustrate that the good ol' days weren't what they were cracked up to be. That unlike today, a child's greatest challenge wasn't whether he/she got into the RIGHT pre-school but just to survive to adulthood.

Posted by Tbird on September 11, 2009 06:49 PM