Comments: PSA: Talk

My mom used to hate when I put the little sticker on my drivers license saying "organ donor" because she thought it meant the doctors wouldn't work as hard to save me. Ignorance.

I have it on my license. The people closest to me know. Hell, I won't be able to use it...give it to someone who can. They won't get a gall bladder out of me though...but please take my eyes...I paid $3000 for lasik...make it last! ;-)

Posted by Sissy at January 4, 2010 11:54 PM

I have made it clear that I am an organ donor, and I have a living will that makes it clear I should be unplugged.

Posted by wRitErsbLock at January 5, 2010 09:08 AM

Bou - Good post, and I commend you. But you've sort of misplaced the emphasis. Whether you have a donor card or not is immaterial. The decision belongs to those who are with you when you die. Not you. Not a card in your wallet.

You can speak to your friends and family about your wishes. You can carry the donor card. But if push comes to shove, and your loved one(s) can't agree to the donation, it won't happen.

Posted by kay at January 5, 2010 10:41 AM

Bing, bing, bing ...

Sissy has the answers to your "why won't people donate organs"

People in my family have stated that myth quite a few times.

And why won't families talk about it with each other? Because they might jinx themselves or their family member and end up dying.

My family has some wierd phobia about talking about death, dying and the deceased. Once you die in my family it's like you no longer exist. It's quite creepy.

Posted by Quality Weenie at January 5, 2010 10:46 AM

12 year olds as doctors - my dad has had heart issues for a while now. The last several times, when sitting around the hospital with my mom, she has taken to referring to the cardiologists as either Skippy or Cubby. I live in fear one of us will slip and actually call these docs that to their faces. ;~)

Kathryn

Posted by TxAFbrat at January 5, 2010 11:27 AM

I'm a donor, even on the marrow list - the hub is a donor - all the kidlets old enough to drive are donors. Though I expect they would reject the cancer survivor's organs she is willing if they'll take 'em. And we All know how we all feel on the subject.

Posted by patti at January 5, 2010 04:59 PM

My husband and I were just talking about this last night. I am an organ donor and have been since I first got my driver's license. My husband is one too. But, what got us talking about it, is that his mother stated that she wants to be an organ donor. She is 79. She said someone told her if she did that, they would cremate her for free. She wants to do it to save money not lives.

Posted by Sticks at January 5, 2010 07:13 PM

Kay- No, I placed the emphasis of this post in the right place. If people don't talk about it, there is no way their wishes can be followed. NONE. Whether the living choose to ignore it is a whole other issue, and not the point of my post. The dead cannot control that. The dead, before they die, CAN however control who knows what about their wishes.

The living can do whatever they want. Case in point, my mother in law wanted to be cremated. She is not. She specifically asked to be cremated and WE ALL KNEW IT. However, my father in law in a fit shrieked, "FINE! IF YOU WANT TO JUST BURN HER BODY, BURN IT!" And so now her remains... are in a frickin' casket, in a vault, awaiting a matching coffin... because THAT is the way HE wants to go.

I personally think we should cremate him just for spite when it's time... but that's just me...

Posted by Bou at January 5, 2010 10:16 PM

Great post Bou! My brothers and I are all organ donors, and also regular blood donors. It is so important to spread the word. Thanks for doing so in such an eloquent fashion.

Posted by Mary at January 5, 2010 10:23 PM

The idea that part of me could save someone's life... or give them sight... or improve that person's life in any way, once I no longer have use for it, is a very compelling one. It's the greatest gift you can give, and it costs you nothing. The only reason to not be an organ donor is if some sort of infectious agent is present that contraindicates it.

Anyone who argues that organ donation violates the dignity of the deceased is missing the point. Nothing is more dignified than helping your fellow human being.

Yes, I am an organ donor. Or a prospective one, anyway. For the time being, I plan to continue using the ones I have. Meanwhile, SWMBO and I continue to donate blood and platelets...

Posted by Elisson at January 7, 2010 09:41 PM