Comments: Scents.....

You are so right. Also there are some things that us women should just buy ourselves because it's too specific. Alan knows that he is not allowed to buy me clothes, perfume, or any kind of beauty product. Although, every once in a while, I'll ask him to pick me up something if he's going to the store anyway, but his response is always "No, nope...too many specifics!" Smart man.

Posted by DogsDontPurr on February 19, 2010 10:00 PM

I'm with DDP. My husband will venture out to buy me clothes, but only if I say, "I like THIS store, THESE colors, and THIS style." No perfume for me as it makes me sick. And he can't buy me make up. It's all a bit too personal for me. He actually bought me pajamas for Christmas. I am having to take them back... and it's not to offend him, but he bought me long pants pajamas and I'm short, something that NEVER occurred to him. He didn't stick to my rules... (I'm all about saving receipts!)

Posted by Bou on February 19, 2010 11:21 PM

I got a bottle of BRUT for Christmas, which I saw later on a shelf at Target for 5.99. I have yet to open it.

Posted by gooseneck on February 19, 2010 11:41 PM

Fake a winning lottery ticket and give her the cash for "HER"
You as a male is not evolved enough, even if you like poetry.
Oom Nic

Posted by keeskennis on February 20, 2010 08:19 AM

Halfway through the post I started thinking I am a total heel. In 26 years of marriage I have never bought my wife a bottle of perfume. What if she is also waiting on me to do the right thing?

Then, at the end, I know I am right. If she wanted some perfume bad enough, she would go buy it. And it would be the right kind.

I do not like perfume anyway. It makes me sneeze.

Posted by hoosierboy on February 20, 2010 09:45 AM

After 29 years my wife has realized that without SPECIFIC instruction I will not buy certain things for her. If it is clothing I make our daughter come with as I have zero fashion sense. I am also somewhat sensitive to certain scents so perfume is rare. I like vanilla based scents. She says it is because they make her smell like cookies. Guilty as charged ma'm.

Posted by Rey B on February 20, 2010 11:50 AM

Communicate. Communicate. Communicate.

Coco Mademoiselle, by Chanel.
(just in case there is a slight chance that someone reads here who might care and feel generous...heh)
Wait...actually, I'd prefer they bought something from my Pondering store and liked it!

Posted by Jean on February 20, 2010 12:24 PM

No offense, but the wearer should buy the fragrance for his/her own self. I'm very particular about what I wear, and wouldn't want someone to drop a large chunk of change on something I might wear only once if I don't like it. And I'M the one that has to live with the stuff I dab on wrists, temples and behind the ears day in and day out.

Plus, you shouldn't have to be a mind reader on this. Sorry, she's not being fair here. (And you know I normally adore your lovely lady.)

Posted by Omnibus Driver on February 20, 2010 12:58 PM

.... back up, folks..... this post was written with as much tongue-in-cheek as I could muster......

... should men and women communicate?..... of COURSE... god knows that most don't...... and we do....

.... secondly, I disagree with you guys on a few levels here....... I believe that if my mate picks out a fragrance for me, then I should wear it....... if she wants me to smell a certain way, why would I deny her that?.....

... and by the same token, why would she not smell like I wanted her to smell?......

.... the key is this, I guess..... I would never FORCE my will on my mate... and she would never force hers on me...... so if she bought me perfume that I didnt really like?...... I would still wear it anyway because I thought it was making her happy.......

..... and in the end, I would expect the same turn of favor from my mate when I bought her something.....

.... fortunately, she LOVES De Issey's perfume..... so there is no problem there...... she just had imagined that I might have chosen something different......

.... but I didnt..... and I still like the way that it smells....

Posted by Eric on February 20, 2010 09:58 PM

As I read this I was thinking, "You should never send a man to buy panty-hose - even when you give him great instructions, it will be wrong."

Posted by Lou on February 21, 2010 08:24 AM

Liewe Neef Eric,
Ek is so om en by 19 jare ouer as jy.
Jy moet vinnig leer as jy wil bykom.

It can only be rough as Afrikaans have more nuance than most.

"Dear cousin Eric,
I am about 19 years older than you."
Up to this point the translation is pretty direct. Now for the next nuanced translation.
"Hey Boykie, wake the *uck up, you are 36 years old/young. In the next 12 years you will learn more about yourself than in the last 36.
That means input to be absorbed at three times the rate."
Gettting older is big FUN.

Posted by keeskennis on February 21, 2010 10:54 AM

LOL - I was waiting for that end.

BTW - David... Bibles... OMG ROFLMAO.

Posted by Teresa on February 21, 2010 10:32 PM

This is such a perfect Straight White Tale on so many levels...

...I can hear the whole Sales Exchange in my head as I read the post. Too damn funny.

Perfume is a very personal sort of purchase, but that's what makes it such a fine gift. Provided, of course, that you know what the recipient likes. In our case, the Missus is allergic to most perfumes, and so I am denied the pleasure of purchasing stinkum for her.

And this part is priceless:

"Did it never cross your mind that I might want something different after all these years?"......

..... "ummm...... no, not really........ oh, fuck....... I'm sorry... ".....

No good deed, my friend, ever goes unpunished.

Posted by Elisson on February 22, 2010 10:31 AM