Comments: The Literature Corner: It's Not A Good Day To Die

Some 39 years ago, during the first week of marriage, I spent most of a night talking my best friend out of pulling the trigger on the Luger he was sucking on. 20 years later, he finished what he'd started so long ago-- so, did I make a difference? Well, for some 20 years, yes.
Did you make a difference? Yeah, and it's still not a good day to die...

Posted by John D at September 17, 2011 06:45 AM

I'm never sure - It's hard to know what someone else's life is about, or what they feel.

Is it a kindness to get someone 20 years of misery? Or were those 20 years filled with some good times too? The hard part is we don't get to know. John D, you did a good thing there.

However, I disagree with our culture's usual antipathy towards all suicides - I believe there is a time and a place where it makes sense for that person, and is an honorable and rational choice -


Posted by Orion at September 17, 2011 03:34 PM

Ouch. It's the reverse of another difficult scenario - "suicide by cop." Good on Joe and the Cop, both.

We are taught that to save a life is to save a world: One can never foretell the repercussions of such events.

Posted by Ran at September 17, 2011 10:13 PM

I believe there is a time and a place where it makes sense for that person, and is an honorable and rational choice

To those who have had a loved one do it, especially a parent, itís a selfish choice. Itís permanent abandonment.

Posted by TeeJaw at September 17, 2011 11:16 PM

Teejaw gets it right, the vast majority of the time suicide is an act of despairing anger. It's the abandonment of hope.

I've been suicidal. Right now I'm taking Prozac and Zyprexa, without either I'd likely be dead. Mike played it just right, I hope it worked out well for Joe. Even if it didn't, at least he had a chance.

Posted by Alan Kellogg at September 17, 2011 11:45 PM

I've had loved ones commit suicide. I've had friends commit suicide. As an EMT I've cleaned up the mess some folks leave when they commit suicide. I've stood suicide watch on someone who was suicidal before. This isn't something I'm unfamiliar with.

However, "It's a selfish choice" - That's the very point I discuss in my post. Isn't it selfish of YOU to want someone to continue to live an empty, pain-filled, meaningless life simply because YOU want them around? Yes, it's hard when a loved one dies. To me, it's harder to watch a loved one rot away in misery, staying around simply because I enjoy having them on the planet.

There are always two points of view...


Posted by Orion at September 18, 2011 09:43 AM

I have to agree with you. If someone wants to end it, what right do you have to impose your belief system? What people do with their lives is their business. I have rarely seen someone who really tried to take their life lead a successful, productive existence subsequently. In the ER, we would be exceptionally busy with people who where really ill and wanted to live. Then a suicide would come in. Everyone would be mad as hell. After restoring the person to health, usually one of the doctors or nurses would explain to the individual how to complete the act successfully the next time.

Posted by david7134 at September 18, 2011 11:42 AM

"There are always two points of view..." Oh PLEASE... because there are such two things as Good and Evil. Evil is oft clothed in "compassion," yes? Yes.

Posted by Ran at September 18, 2011 11:48 AM