Comments: Seriously

Not to be a bother, but do we know what ails Liz? Was it mentioned and I missed it? Is it something preferred to be left unmentioned?
Either way: all the best for you and yours. Here's to a swimmingly successful operation! *glug*

Posted by Tuning Spork at November 29, 2003 09:52 PM

I understand her, though, in not wanting to be a bother. When I was in the hospital recently (and recovering at home), I tried to do as much for myself as humanly possible, and my friends let me know that my independent streak was pissing them off. It's hard to give up (incrementally or all at once) things that used to come so easily for you. And sometimes it hurts to see people doing those things that you never gave a thought to before.

But Liz is so lucky to have you there always. I had to do for myself because most times, nobody was around, or I had to wait until they were done with work or whatever they had to do until I could have something done for me. Feeling powerless just eats away at you, but it really is nice to have someone who cares enough to take over when you yourself just can't do whatever needs to be done.

Both my grandmother and great-grandmother became bedridden in their later years -- these were feisty women who never, ever depended on anyone. But at some point, both reached the point where they were simply grateful for whatever help we could give them, even though it was a constant reminder of their fragile states. Even though we're the ones who are stressed out about practically having to beg them to do something for them, it allows them to kind of keep some of their power, reminding us that they would be more than happy to do for themselves, if only they could.

In any event, Liz sounds like one incredible lady, and I wish her all the love and luck in the world during this incredibly difficult time!

Posted by Dawn at November 30, 2003 07:04 AM
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