Comments: Confrontation in a parking lot.

A similar thing happened to my dad, except the old lady didn't have dementia. She was just a friggin thief. When Dad confronted her, she simply said "well, it didn't look like anyone wanted it. No one was there" My Dad was standing next to the cart with his back to it because he was talking to a friend.....

Posted by caltechgirl at September 1, 2005 03:31 PM

It tough contagion. I had a very similar experience with my great aunt. She thought I was her son and did the same. Blaming me for abandoning her. I never went to see her again. Perhaps that's why I volunteer to work the Alzhiemers unit where I work now. Just a thought.

Posted by Chemicalnova at September 1, 2005 04:05 PM

The opposite happened to my Grandfather as he was succombing to the effects of Alzheimers, he regressed into a child-like state. Didn't speak much, sucked his finger, lost his ability to take himself to the bathroom. It was quite sad to witness. My grandma took care of him herself until the last few months. What a woman!

Posted by Oddybobo at September 1, 2005 04:41 PM

I had the experience of strangers thinking I was a long lost (sometimes dead) relative when I worked as a CNA on the dementia ward. I can tell you, I would rather have that experience than put their families through it. Sometimes though, if I just played along they would get a little peace for that moment.
Sometimes though, you have to tell them that they really are being watched, and the only safe place is their bed.

Posted by littlejoe at September 1, 2005 10:11 PM

What happened with your grandmother and you, is what happened with my grandfather and I. Not that he screamed at me, but he thought he was back in Germany, and I was a new soldier. Things got really weird...

But I still regret not going to see him before he bought it.

Posted by That 1 Guy at September 2, 2005 06:59 AM

I too will have to post on this. I had a Grandmother with alzheimers, and have worked with alzheimers patients since I was 15.

Poor guy....and poor son.

Posted by ArmyWifeToddlerMom at September 2, 2005 08:09 AM

My paternal grandmother didn't have Alzheimer's, but had a continuing series of small strokes over the course of several years. It finally reached a point that I absolutely refused to visit her in the nursing home. My parents tried to tell me that I'd regret that decision.

My only real regret is that I didn't do it sooner. Every good memory I have of her is tainted by the last images of her in that home.

Posted by Jenna at September 2, 2005 02:33 PM

Elderly mental problems are just heart-rending.

I'm glad my dad was clear-headed until the end. Gives me hope that TNT won't have to watch me fall apart.

Posted by Harvey at September 3, 2005 10:58 AM

It is horrible watching someone you love, someone so full of joy, laughter and love become angry and unknowing. I'm watching it unfold. It scares me to death.

I can see what happened in the parking lot happening to me. All too easily.

Posted by Tammi at September 3, 2005 07:05 PM