Comments: Homecoming, part 2 -- Why Can't Marching Bands Just March?

It was a shock to me too when my daughter began in marching band six years ago. The long hours of training, the adding of props and new musical pieces each week, the elaborateness of it all. And the competitions. Band just isn't band any more it is sport, competition. Points and winners and losers. It's kinda like life. I had to learn to fight through all of the crap to appreciate the beauty.
I must confess as a father I handled this poorly. I chose not to be interested without realizing the devastating impact this would have on my daughter. Her interpretation was that I wasn't interested in her. She felt ignored and abandoned by me and I was oblivious. Eventually the truth came out how hurt she was. She was very angry. When I started attending the competitions for marching band and helping get all the props and instruments on the floor in Winter Percussion it took a while for the ice to melt. Eventually, she came to trust that I really did care. I earned my way back into her life and heart. This was very important when I took a stand about a boy she was dating who was bringing more darkness into her soul.
So, moral of the story for me. If my kid is interested in something I try to be interested and this not to fake it but because I have a wide open path to the depths of my childs heart.

Posted by ben at October 19, 2005 11:06 AM

Band is a sport. This year Mayhem #2's band is only competing twice since this is not our state year. We have our UIL competition this coming Tuesday. In Texas, the props don't usually come out until the Regional level, and then you have lots of props for the State level. Last year, Mayhem #1 and the band made it to the state level with a show called Hiereglyphs(sp?). This year it's a salute to Broadway since our school is producing it's 50th musical in three weeks. My favorite show was the year they did the rise and fall of the Roman empire in 7 1/2 minutes.

And I agree with Ben whole heartedly. Be there!! I've taken pictures of kids who are seniors whose parents have never been to a single football game or competition. It's really sad.

Posted by mercy at October 21, 2005 05:54 AM

To clarify, three weeks from now is the scheduled performance of the school's 50th musical...we're aren't performing 50 musicals in the span of three weeks. ;-)

Posted by LittleA at October 21, 2005 03:48 PM