"...and apparently we don't deserve it at this time..."

Just because he's not deploying? No you're wrong. Nothing has changed. He's just going to do something different. In the long run it will be something he really wants to be doing and something that will help in a bigger way. You both deserve every bit of praise for doing a difficult job.

As for children... I have to say, there is no "good" time to have them. Trust me on this one. If it's good in one way it will suck pond water in another way. Kids are one thing that can never be properly prepared for. It's more difficult in the military because of all the moving, deployments, etc. but still there is no good time.

Many people "think" themselves out of having kids because they never "think" the time is right and they wait too long.

This comes to you from someone who had 2 kids at the "worst" possible times. :-)

Posted by Teresa at November 17, 2006 10:40 PM


please cross post this over at SpouseBuzz...

I too am on this hurry up and wait thing...

Posted by armywifetoddlermom at November 17, 2006 10:45 PM

It'll happen for you when the time is right. I know that sounds trite and cliche. But from what I've seen there is no perfect time. Thanks for the note you left on my blog. Was much appreciated. I am checking my reads, just not as much.

Posted by Mare at November 20, 2006 07:55 AM

Ditto to Teresa's first comments. I have no idea
about the kid thing! :)

Give Charlie a pat on the head for me!

Posted by MaryIndiana at November 21, 2006 10:11 AM

Well Sarah, I can confirm that there is no "good" or "right" time to have kids. The "good time" comes AFTER you've had them. It is a new adventure that you are never fully prepared for. Think of everything you've been through with your puppy. Now imagine the love you have for that puppy multiplied by 100 or 1000. That is a kid! Good luck to you both. Incidentally, I encourage you to have kids in the military, it is much cheaper! :)


Posted by Jim "The Cat" at November 23, 2006 11:33 AM