Sweetie, let me attempt to shed some light here:
1. Tankers are solar powered. Sun goes down, we go to bed.
2. Sleep is a learned response to stress. Likely he is using the same coping mechanism felt in theater to deal with new, unrealized stressors--like reunification.
3. Sleep can also be a learned response to healing emotional trauma--like PTSD
4. His biological clock is going to take more than a few days to adjust to the time difference.
5. After combat, life can be pretty damned dull.
6. likely he is incredibly comfortable and safe at home--he knows there's no incoming mortars, no IEDs, no QRF call outs, no emergency meetings. Watch him in the car--odds are he'll change lanes for trash on the side of the road, and lean towards the middle of the car. Hell, I still do that.
7. Sometimes, husbands get so good at tuning out the babble from our wives that we just doze off. I'm guilty of that.
8. His physiological sleep deficit is huge. Obviously, he can't make up for all the sleep he's lost over the past year, but mentally, he's thinking "When I get home, I'm going to sleep for a year!"
9. You could secretly switch him to decaf for a week, then start brewing espresso.
10. Another option: look into "pri9vate island" vacations. For relatively cheap, you get dropped off on an island with food, water, shelter, and each other. Nothing to do but spend time together, no distractions, and it helps him re-focus on you.
11. Or you could be like Carren, and bitch and nag every time I doze off, then scamper away yourself for a nap.
12. If all else fails, buy a remote dog shock-collar, and zap the sleep behavior out of him.

Posted by Chuck at December 25, 2008 09:40 AM

Sara you crack me up and I can definitely emphathise. Whenever mine goes TDY for any reason I aways forget all the ticks that make me twitch ... than they all come crashing back and ruin the romanticzed memory in my head :)

Posted by Darla at December 26, 2008 03:00 PM