Comments: A Different Argument

I know i'm late to this, but as a mom, I just had to express my support for you. I'm a working mom. At present, I'm raising 2 kids, an 11 year old, and a 6 year old. Six months ago, we also took on raising my 10 year old niece. A month ago, her 16 year old brother moved in.

We've got a house full of kids and more than full-time jobs.

So, we've been tardy several times in the last 6 months. Sue me.

It happens. Life happens.

But, that shyte about the doctor/dentist appointments is REALLY what gets on my last good nerve.

Back when I was a kid, all my mom had to do was say that we had an appointment, and all was excused. All she had to do was write a note.

But not today. Oh, no. Parents can't be trusted to make decisions that are in the best interests of their children. So, mommies and daddies like you and I can't just take them to appointments, but we must bring a note to excuse their tardy.

I refuse. I flat out refuse. I refuse to be treated like some sort of irresponsible parental retard who can't be trusted. So, my kids each have unexcused tardies and absences for going to the doctor/dentist.

Screw em.


posted by catzmeow on January 10, 2005 05:00 PM

catz: hell yeah!

posted by jessica on January 10, 2005 05:43 PM

Key, this is your own little piece of the world into which you can pour out any and all thoughts and feelings that may arise.

No explanation, nay justification, for those thoughts/feelings/posts are required.

I just feel badly that you became the target of so many, for so little.

posted by jmflynny on January 10, 2005 05:47 PM

I appreciate that Flynny, and I thought about that, which accounts for the hesitation to revisit the topic.

But I posted this cuz I wanted to.

(And Catz, I can't even get these things striked WITH a doctor's note!)

posted by Key on January 10, 2005 06:19 PM

I am always on time or early unless I am intentionally f**king with someone. That happens more than you might think. I give the message, they get it, hopefully. But I have the luxury of not being responsible getting the chirren to school, too. I'd have them 5 minutes late every day just to screw with a gummint school bureaucrat.

posted by Velociman on January 10, 2005 07:13 PM

I agree with the flynnster. I dont think you owe anyone on your friggin blog an explanation for anything you do or anything you choose to post about.

posted by Mr. Helpful on January 10, 2005 07:40 PM

I, too, am one of those psychotically punctual people. I hate to admit it, but I am - it was drilled into my by my father, with an iron drillbit. However, when one has little kids, sometimes shit happens. You can drag them kicking and screaming out of the house well before you need to be on the road - and STILL be late, because some dumb fucker on a tractor is pooting down the road at the height of rush hour. Or you have to go back inside and change because the baby just vomited all over you. Or you get all the way to school and your kid forgot her science paper and will get an F on a major project if you don't go back and get it. Which would you pick? An F on a grade, or a tardy? I'll take TARDY for 1000, Alex - because it's the actual education part of school that comes first.

Anyway. Shit happens with little kids in tow. Even my on-time-or-die ass has had to, on occasion, just let it go, or go mad with frustration. It's part of being a parent.

posted by Queenie on January 10, 2005 07:41 PM

"But I posted this cuz I wanted to."

That's the only reason you need!

posted by jmflynny on January 10, 2005 08:19 PM

Flynny, I am slack. I can't believe I didn't roll you when I rolled Dash!

I'm goin... Give me 48 hours. I'm thinking the dreaded serious overhaul this time. I may even *gulp* remove Bejus. I don't think he's coming back this time. :(

posted by Key on January 10, 2005 08:33 PM

Key, the only thing I can suggest is that you talk to your school superintendent. This is NOT a national policy. My kids' school certainly has never called me on the carpet for them being tardy, so I suspect this is a LOCAL INTERPRETATION of national guidance.

Most schools have site-based management. It's entirely possible that this was a decision by the school administration at your local school as a result of a mandate that came down from their district to reduce tardies and absenteeism.

The problem is that they are going about this the wrong way...THey're doing it like the frigging IRS. Thousands of people in the U.S. pay no income taxes at all, they don't even bother to file. Does the IRS hassle them? Maybe, very very rarely if they get some sort of tip that this person isn't paying.

Mostly, they hassle the rest of us who go to the trouble of actually trying to do the right thing and pay our taxes.

There really are parents out there who don't give a rat's ass if their kid is in school or not. I know this because I work with them for a living.

But you and I aren't those parents. However, those parents are much harder to motivate than we are. So, the school is, to put it bluntly, fugging with you because THEY CAN. You'll take it and perhaps even do something about it.

I doubt they are wasting this much time and energy on the parents of the chronic truants. I'd seriously, again, suggest a phone call to your superintendent about this fugged up policy.

Tell him to do his job and actually prosecute the parents of chronic truants versus hassling the folks who are actually trying to be good parents.


posted by catzmeow on January 11, 2005 09:46 AM

Just to add my two cents...I would be on the side of your spousal unit on this one....BUT....having a few years of marital experience (yeah, I am on wife #2 right now, just means a wider *variety* of there), I think you may have hit on a valid point....that you feel one way and the hubby is in the other in and of itself, not a bad thing...the kidlet needs to see balance and traditionally "the mom" was the comfort zone, and "the dad" was the "if it ain't broke or bleeding" you'd better get your butt in gear and make it to school...things are all black or white...and ...well, you know, "the dad". I got a feeling you two will raise one hell of a good kid there. I remember the excused and unexcused absences helps when you are *tight* with the attendance lady in the office.

posted by Guy S. on January 11, 2005 01:10 PM

At the risk of sounding like I've had more Scotch than I really have this evening, I have one simple thing to say to you: Fuck 'em all... you don't need to justify a damn thing to those who know you, and to those who don't, tell them to take a good look, because you are you who are, and if they don't like it, they can go to Hell without the benefit of an apology from you or a handbasket.

And that is MY $0.02... not that I'm as conservative as you, but I'm too old to deal with the shit that other people try to impose on me.

posted by Jack on January 12, 2005 03:37 PM
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