Comments: Best Friends

I have an alter ego who lives the life I don't. She wants kids and a dh; go figure!

I do think we always take a path and wonder about the other one; but I wouldn't choose another one if it meant missing one moment with my kids. I can't dream of not having them in my life, not really.

Posted by Rachel Ann at January 17, 2005 10:56 AM

My one good college friend who beat the rest of us to marriage and children has stayed super skinny, while the rest of us (though all married, happily) have been gaining weight =] At least I can use the baby excuse myself now!

Posted by Lenise at January 17, 2005 11:39 AM

When those little arms wrap around your neck and that soft-skinned cheek is rubbing up against your face, those "other" choices and everything else in the world just fade away. I like that choice.

There IS a skinny body inside of you waiting to come out, just like I have one inside of me. They unfortunately have to fight through the "comfort zone" that married people sometimes get.

Posted by MarcV at January 17, 2005 11:42 AM

Recently I had the odd experience of discovering that someone I first hired into "management" many years ago (prior to Daughter OotFP's birth) made vice prez four or five years ago. I would have made it sooner, had I stayed on the path.

But two roads diverged -- at least as far as I was concerned. Has it made "all" the difference, more than 23 years on? Yes, I think so. Mr OotFP and I know for certain that we have no regrets about this choice.

Having no regrets does not mean I don't notice differences. What it comes down to for me, though, is that I am deeply gratified to have had the opportunities unique to the path I chose. And it has truly surprised me, the opportunities that have come along. For the very dailiness of things right now, I would doubt that you would have energy to imagine the doors that will open in days and months and years ahead, not in spite of your life decisions, but because of them.

Posted by Patricia at January 17, 2005 05:16 PM

It is good to keep in touch with friends, they can be a restorer of perspective when we are too self-focused. As a mother of a 19-year-old, I would encourage you to not be too self-sacrificing. It pays off for your husband and your children when you balance your time to include enough "me time".

Posted by Debbie at January 17, 2005 09:27 PM

Well I know the two crazy cats you are speaking of, and I am sure you had a wild time!

I bet it was totally like Fall Party weekend used to be.

Posted by DGK at January 18, 2005 03:58 PM