Comments: I've Been Detached

You have done a good job with him and I see that it hurts you in many ways about the boy. It is very hard to be a father to a child, that is not yours and I understand that. You made the right choice, I think and hope you did. It is not your problem. I know you are a very caring person and I love you for that. Take care and don't worry about it, Cat

posted by catfish on May 29, 2005 11:00 PM

Oh, dear God in heaven.
I honestly have no idea what you must be going through; however, reading your words I cannot help, but feel some of what you are experiencing.

You did the right thing. Where I come from it is often said: You done good, honey, you done real good.

Bless you.

posted by Christina on May 29, 2005 11:56 PM

Key -
The love and care you have given that little boy from the moment he came into your home will stay with him throughout his life. YOU gave him a chance. YOU introduced him to love. YOU made sure that a special couple could give him the life he deserved. YOU are a wonderful mother...and I admire you so very very much. I will keep you and that little guy in my prayers.

posted by Dana on May 29, 2005 11:57 PM

Key - What catfish, Christina, and Dana said. You done real good girl. Years ago I had one experience with a foster daughter and I still remember how it tore me apart when we had to put her back into "the system". You're in my prayers, young lady. All the best, Terry Reynolds

posted by Terry Reynolds on May 30, 2005 07:02 AM

That had to be a hard thing to do, but you're right, it was the right thing. I'm impressed that you went the extra mile to make sure the boy was placed in the right home. You'll miss him, but you'll be comforted to know he is happy and well loved.

posted by Dash on May 30, 2005 10:05 AM are a 10.

posted by Sam on May 30, 2005 11:26 AM

Oh Key...that's gotta be the hardest thing in the world. Still, by anyone's standards you really did a fantastic job of helping the boy along. You should be proud of yourself and what you've done. God bless you and people like you, Key. People who do the stuff you do make the world a better place. You rock.

posted by zonker on May 30, 2005 12:46 PM

I salute you, Key, and this is a difficult thing for you, I can understand. I wish I were half the person you are. Bless you.

posted by Velociman on May 30, 2005 01:38 PM

You have a heart bigger than almost anyone I've ever met. And in a little spot in that child's heart, you will ALWAYS be "Mommy".

Sending you a huge hug. Wish I could deliver it in person.

posted by Omnibus Driver on May 30, 2005 03:29 PM

God has blessed this child with his very own guardian angel. What might have happened to him without your perseverence?

God Bless.

posted by jmflynny on May 30, 2005 04:35 PM


It takes a strong women to do what you have done for this child. God Bless You!


posted by Barbie on May 30, 2005 08:25 PM

Key -

I don't comment here but I felt I had to say something after reading this post, which brought tears to my eyes. You did make the right decision for him and, just by reading this post, I know how hard it must have been for you. {{{hugs}}} You've done a wonderful thing for him.

posted by Kate on May 30, 2005 10:30 PM

Thank you for careing and going the extra mile for that child.

posted by Maeve on May 30, 2005 11:01 PM

You are one in a million.

posted by Denny on May 30, 2005 11:28 PM

No one can really change the whole world. But you've changed three lives--for the better. It's amazing how the things that are the best seem to be the most painful.

The world could do with a lot more people like you.

posted by Samira on May 30, 2005 11:47 PM

Key, thank you and all the other selfless foster parents, especially that special couple who raised my sons for their first five years and literally saved their lives. Ten years ago, we were the adoptive parents whose papers were rushed through the channels with strings pulled by the social workers so we could adopt twin five year old boys. The foster parents were being pushed by the system to adopt but they were almost 60 and knew their home wasn't right for two active little boys. My sons grieved the loss of their foster parents, but we visited, called and wrote and will never forget them. God bless you.

posted by Earth Girl on May 31, 2005 12:59 AM

i came via neanderpundit. i've never been here before. much respect key. took a lot of strength.

posted by mlah on May 31, 2005 01:49 AM

A broken child is a terrible thing. The proper glue to reassemble them is an esoteric thing, at best, to assemble. You, staying in his life, even on the periphery, are wise. As was your decision to not break your husbands balls over his stance.

You are a wise, and special woman.

God Bless you. May He mend your broken heart.

posted by Bane on May 31, 2005 02:46 AM

*hugs* I feel your pain. My prayers are with you and the kiddo.

posted by Chablis on May 31, 2005 07:40 AM

Dear Key........from another view point......I had what was a less than desirable childhood by anyones there been a person with the quality of character and the capacity to love that you posess,i'm very sure my life would of been much better and I would not have the issues I carry daily. May God bless you more than He already has.

posted by Arrathorn on May 31, 2005 08:38 AM

Wow. My heart goes out to you, Key.

posted by Jim - PRS on May 31, 2005 03:52 PM

sweet 'n real

posted by neal on June 1, 2005 02:50 AM

I *applaud* your wonderful success with this boy! We went through a situation a few years ago with a boy of 12, and it nearly exploded our family into a million pieces. I had to be the *bad-guy* and say ENOUGH but, luckily, our hard work did make a difference in the long run and he has turned out to be a great kid -- he joined the Army, took some initiative to detach from his crazy biological family, married a sweet girl, and is a success after all.

Your hard work and dedication to the care of this child will come back to you, over and over again! You shall find that your *angelic* giving will be repaid.

Thank you for sharing your story!

posted by Kitty on June 1, 2005 12:33 PM

Words fail me.

Key, you are one special lady.

posted by Elisson on June 2, 2005 10:04 AM

God Bless you for your obvious unselfishness in your care of this boy. You made some hard choices, and made them out of love.

posted by Scott on June 3, 2005 04:03 PM

I was referred by Neanderpundit. You absolutely did the right thing, and I hope that is a continuing comfort to you as you watch the boy grow up. My greatest respects for your consideration and rejection of sanctimoniousness for your husband.

posted by Morenuancedthanyou on June 4, 2005 03:14 PM

Oh, Key.....
What a difficult decision! I believe, as you do, that you made the right one. And I am sooooo glad the agency kept you in the loop for placement with adoptive parents. He will love you for the rest of his live- and so will his new parents.

God Bless.....

posted by AFSister on June 9, 2005 09:54 AM
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